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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Strengthen Relationships, Heal Wounds & Reconnect with Yourself

 

Are you feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner, your loved ones, or even yourself?


Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a deeply researched, attachment-based therapy designed to help individuals and couples create secure, lasting emotional bonds. Whether you’re navigating relationship conflict, trauma, or internal disconnection, EFT offers a path back to emotional safety, clarity, and connection.

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At MF Therapy, PLLC, I use EFT to help clients explore the emotions beneath their struggles and transform the patterns that keep them stuck.

What Is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?

EFT is a structured, evidence-based therapy rooted in attachment science. It focuses on the emotional patterns that shape how we relate to others and to ourselves. Through EFT, we uncover the underlying needs and fears that drive conflict, avoidance, or disconnection and begin to create new patterns of trust and responsiveness.
 

EFT is effective for individuals, couples, and families.

How does EFT Work?

EFT works by helping you:

  • Identify and understand core emotional needs

  • Explore how early attachment experiences influence present relationships

  • Recognize and shift negative interaction cycles (like withdrawal, criticism, or defensiveness)

  • Develop new ways of responding—with vulnerability, empathy, and security

  • Build deeper emotional intimacy and resilience
     

Whether you're coming in alone or with a partner, EFT helps you reconnect from the inside out.

What Does EFT Help With?

  • Relationship distress, conflict, or disconnection

  • Attachment wounds from childhood or past relationships

  • Anxiety, depression, or emotional numbness

  • Fear of abandonment, intimacy, or rejection

  • Postpartum relationship stress and identity shifts

  • Low self-worth, self-criticism, or emotional shutdown

  • Healing from trauma or betrayal

Benefits of Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • Rooted in attachment science – one of the most empirically supported therapies for couples and relationships

  • Emotionally attuned – goes beneath the surface to heal the emotional root of issues

  • Applicable across cultures and identities – EFT centers universal human needs for connection, security, and belonging

  • Deeply transformative – not just symptom relief, but lasting emotional change

What to Expect in EFT Sessions

  • A collaborative, emotionally safe space

  • Exploration of emotional patterns and relationship cycles

  • Identification of unmet emotional needs and protective behaviors

  • Guided conversations that create deeper understanding and closeness

  • A slow, steady process of building new relational experiences within yourself or with others

Common Questions About EFT

Q: Is EFT only for couples?
A: No, EFT is effective for both individuals and couples. Individual EFT helps explore attachment wounds, self-worth, and emotional regulation.

Q: How is EFT different from talk therapy?
A: While traditional talk therapy focuses on insight, EFT focuses on emotional experience and restructuring patterns of connection for deep, lasting change.

Q: How long does EFT take?
A: EFT is typically a mid-length therapy (12–20 sessions for couples; varies for individuals), but healing timelines depend on your unique goals and history.

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